This post is not meant in anyway to defame Tameka!!! However…that’s right…Tameka Foster, Glover, Raymond once made me cry on the set of a video for a short lived group called the ATL. We were already 3 hours behind and she was not allowing the group to get dressed because…hummm…her creative vision AS A WARDROBE STYLIST was being compromised! I believe that was the line she gave me! I was the second assistant director and my SOLE job for the day was to the get the Artists’ and the models to set, and of course they couldn’t get there… if they didn’t have their clothes on! I begged and pleaded with Tameka which seemed to only fuel her fire. She insisted I go get the Director’s, the Fat Cats… IN THE MIDDLE OF THE SHOOT she wanted to go over the creative vision for the group and video once again!!!
That was in 2003 and boy I didn’t know the SECRET then. The SECRET in this entry is a bit complicated but let’s try to walk through it. You see there is a thing in life called the path of LEAST RESISTANCE, the more I pushed, the more she resisted. Have you ever used a screwdriver and actually the pressure ended up “stripping the hole”? However, if you had just used a more calculated slower force, the result would have been better. Well, people like Tameka are much the same. Now some negative folks may say she is a CONTROL FREAK; I would prefer to say that she is a person who “needs to feel in control”. You see people who need to feel in control are usually out of control in other areas and are “overcompensating” for their feelings somewhere else. THE REAL SECRET HERE IS: let’s stop bitching about peoples habits and start learning how to deal with them so that we don’t CREATE NEGATIVE COPING MECHANISMS of our own!
